Nesting With The Earley Birds

The Five Love Languages Couples Quiz by Gary Chapman

October 06, 2020 Shannon Earley / Evan Earley Season 1 Episode 9
Nesting With The Earley Birds
The Five Love Languages Couples Quiz by Gary Chapman
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Nesting With The Earley Birds
The Five Love Languages Couples Quiz by Gary Chapman
Oct 06, 2020 Season 1 Episode 9
Shannon Earley / Evan Earley

I hope that you enjoy hearing us (Evan and Shannon Earley) take Gary Chapman's The Five Love Languages Quiz for Couples.

This is actually our second time taking this quiz - the first being several years ago when suggested by my MOPS group.  It's interesting that the results have changed over the years, but I think that life circumstances change things in your marriage regardless!  We used to have the exact, down to the percentage, quiz results.  When we received ours today, I was not only surprised, but also interested to hear how I could love my husband, Evan, better!

The neat thing is that this quiz is not only for couples.  You can figure out the love language for your kiddos, yourself, or even as a single person.  We all need and give love in different ways, so it's nice to hear how we tick - just a little bit of insight into our hearts.

You can find the quiz online here.

Or - a link to the book, The Five Love Languages , is here.

The music that you heard today is Happy Ukulele by Scott Holmes

And remember!  If you have any questions, please let me know!  And let me know YOUR results.  I want to hear them!  Feel free to post them on our podcast community's Facebook page!

Thank you so dang much for coming, whether this is your first or 9th time.  Thank you.
 

Show Notes Transcript

I hope that you enjoy hearing us (Evan and Shannon Earley) take Gary Chapman's The Five Love Languages Quiz for Couples.

This is actually our second time taking this quiz - the first being several years ago when suggested by my MOPS group.  It's interesting that the results have changed over the years, but I think that life circumstances change things in your marriage regardless!  We used to have the exact, down to the percentage, quiz results.  When we received ours today, I was not only surprised, but also interested to hear how I could love my husband, Evan, better!

The neat thing is that this quiz is not only for couples.  You can figure out the love language for your kiddos, yourself, or even as a single person.  We all need and give love in different ways, so it's nice to hear how we tick - just a little bit of insight into our hearts.

You can find the quiz online here.

Or - a link to the book, The Five Love Languages , is here.

The music that you heard today is Happy Ukulele by Scott Holmes

And remember!  If you have any questions, please let me know!  And let me know YOUR results.  I want to hear them!  Feel free to post them on our podcast community's Facebook page!

Thank you so dang much for coming, whether this is your first or 9th time.  Thank you.
 

Hello everybody, this is Shannon Earley, the hostess of Nesting With The Earley Birds Podcast. This is episode 9! And tune-in because you are about to hear from the most special, wonderful and famous person in my life. AKA, my husband. Thank you so much for listening and tune in to maybe what makes our marriage tick.  Well, thanks for coming. What up everybody it's Shannon Earley, and this is episode nine. You are in luck, because you are about to listen from the most amazing person I've ever met. The person that I decided to dedicate my entire life plus eternity with ; the person that loves me beyond reason; the smartest and humblest most artistic and creative person I know. Please welcome to the show, Evan Earley.
Hello nesters.
They're so excited. They're doing that cheer sound. Hey, Evan, how you doing?
I'm doing pretty good today. I had a good weekend. 
Why? 
The weather the fall weather was beautiful. And we have lots of family time. And I mean, we went to a pumpkin patch. And we got to go to the park. Nothing crazy. But there's a good weekend.
Yeah. And like the most beautiful thing of the weekend. That was my smile, right?
Yes. Obviously.
If you hear any screeching in the background, it's our two pound dog Frodo, who's scratching himself a bed on the pillow next to us. Hey, bud.
Oh, by the way, who named that dog? 
I did? 
Yeah. Well I wonder wear,  Well, where'd you get the name from? Babe?
I don't know. Lord of the Rings.
Oh, I don't know. Maybe. Was it a hobbit?
Yeah, we have a very tiny dog. So he named him after the tiny Hobbit. .
Yeah haha. He also just jumped up on Evans microphone. Yeah, so for those of you that don't know, that might not be as nerdily inclined as we are. hobbits are small folk, from a magical land that are brave, and fierce and loyal. They're not fierce, actually. They're pretty much wimpy. So today, Evan and I actually just recently celebrated how many years babe, did we just celebrate being married recently?
Oh, like in June?
Yeah. Like in? Yeah. How many marriage years?
 It was 10. 
Yeah, that's right.
Yeah, man. It feels like it was like five months ago or something.
It doesn't really feel like do you?
I guess it definitely four months ago, but
we were both like, chubbier than
this is true. I know. I feel like you need a weight loss episode because we've both lost some weight.
Yeah, well, we lose it. And then like, one of us gets like sick or cozy and then we both gain it together.
True. True. We were on the ice cream diet. We gained our COVID-19 Yeah. And then lost it, and
instead of freshman 15 it's the COVID-19 
Yeah,
Dad jokes.
 We lost our COVID-19 Plus, extra. Yeah, maybe another 90.
Yeah, yeah. Well, by the way, you know, I have always thought you're handsome no matter what. Not even handsome. But like, right. Yeah. Do I tell you? You do? Yeah. Yeah. What do you love about me?
Everything.  Obviously. 
he's so cute. He this guy. Let me tell you guys. When I met him, I was only 21. And he was old because he was 24 mm. He was almost about to turn 25 and him and his super duper good friend were about to celebrate their 50th birthday together because they were both 25. And they both dress up like old men. And like I thought this guy was this. Like, I was like, this is it!
Well, birthdays were a week apart. So we were 50 together.
Yeah, that's right.
Yeah. So I was like, I have never met somebody so confident in themselves that they would dress like an old man. And go to a bar. Like I've never seen it. The sad part is babe. Now we don't even have to dress like old people. Yeah. People just look at us and they think we're old now. That's right. so evident. I even though we've been married for 10 years, we've been together for like 13 and a half. And I actually met him at work. Oh, my goodness. I'm so scandalous. But yeah, where where did I where did I meet ya?
yeah. So she met me when I was working at a bank. And she worked there for a week. But obviously, we stayed together. Yeah. So it almost didn't happen because she left some paperwork at work and I didn't have her phone number like I had her work number that I could get ahold of her there but then she just quit all of a sudden And she remembered my work number called me to get some paperwork 
Yeah Dude
 We stayed in touch.
It was the days before smartphones.
No. I mean, I think I had it. Yeah, I had a cell phone but not a smartphone.
Nah, dude just texted. That's it. It's crazy. Now I man, um, as far as the banking industry goes, I don't know if y'all can tell like that's just not. It is not where the Lord designed my personality to be. As a matter of fact, that's how I've been and I became friends there because I actually decided to work there so that I could make friends cuz like, there was all these cubicles. So I was like, oh, I'll be able to meet friends like in shows
a lot of shit a lot of Shannon's major life events and involve trying to make friends. It's
true. Oh, my goodness, I never thought of it. You're totally right. And you know, guys, like in shows where it's like real cute and fun. And like, everybody has a great time when they work in cubicles. It's a friggin lie. It's a lie. I kept getting in trouble for talking. Yeah.
And then this dude comes over to help me fix my computer's something. And what did I look like? Do you look beautiful? So excited. There was a somebody around my age that started working there. Yeah. You know, I was hoping I could hang out with and worked out.
Yeah, just hang out with just somebody to hang out with. Like, if I was a dude, like.
I mean, I thought you're very beautiful.
Right? I didn't think you were also searching for friends. Yeah, I mean,
there is definitely some other women my age that I wasn't interested in.
Yeah, man. So can I
like I gotta say, like, I'm not even trying to come across as being a turd. But I think one thing that really works in our relationship is that we're super besties. Right?
Yeah, I think our first lunch conversation was about the x men.
It was it was about our favorite x men and what we thought about the actual Marvel comic universe versus the actual x men movies, right? It blew me away that like there was a dude that told me he likes Cyclops. I was like, what nobody talks about Cyclops. And then he went on this like, tirade about how they the new movies treated Cyclops like crap and like they made him look like such a loser. But in the original, he's the leader. And he's really cool, right? Yeah.
Okay, hipster about my my nerd stuff.
That's true. You got a lot of comics, actually.
Yeah, I do. So like, to me the movies aren't the definitive version of the x men. It's comics.
Yeah. Well, luckily, you met a girl that was let's see. Let's see your qualifications were your age and could talk about comics. Yeah, man. Do you remember who I talked about liking for? Excellent. Do you remember whose
was it? storm?
Yeah, there you go. Boom, bow. Do you know what boy x man I have a crush on from back in the day. Do you remember? Yeah, Gambit. Yeah. avi.
Marcia, or whatever.
Oh, there you go. We're gonna that's why I married him because he can be Gambit. So yeah, man. So Evan, and I just, we just really enjoy, we just enjoy enjoying each other. So every night, even if we're just on our phones, like, really tired parents, were generally in the same room with like, our foot on one another, or whatever. If one of us is doing like artwork or something creative, the other one just sits there. like a like a moth.
Yeah, just
watches the other one. Like, right, but it's a cozy thing.
It's definitely one of the defining things about our marriage is that we do want to spend all waking hours so either it's really cute, or it's codependency. I'm not sure. Maybe both.
It's codependency. Yeah.
Yeah, I think for a lot of people that that really works. A lot of people need their alone time. And I'm not saying I never need alone time. I certainly do
know, dude, that's when we go poop. We don't go into poop town.
But um,
yeah, a lot of people. Like they just prefer doing their own thing and night. That's true. And if that works for them great
saying that. I'm glad I'm your friend. I'm glad you're my friend. Yeah.
I know that we have a lot of the same interest. There's a huge overlap.
Even when we don't have the same interest though. Don't you think that we just kind of cheer each other on?
Yeah, I mean, when I talk about football, you kind of nod off on me.
Yeah. Oh, totally. I'm glazing right. The freak over. Yeah. But I did
see how shirt, I got a badass, like when you talk about fashion or makeup, I'm like, Oh, great.
It's true. It's true. So I had heard, I'm sure you guys have heard about something called the five love languages. And what's really cool is there's a guy, there's a dude who wrote this book, basically. And it's about the different languages that we need to, that we need to feel loved. And the way that we like to show our love, and it talks about how obviously, you can have a mix of all of these. But generally, if you're somebody that when somebody is feeling really low, for instance, you might either have the instinct or go and buy them a present, or the instinct to call them on the phone, or the instinct to do an act of service for them kind of thing. Those would be the ways you would show love. And that would fit into the different types of love languages. Right, babe? am I explaining it? Well,
yeah, I also want to note that generally, I'm very skeptical of these kinds of like, I don't know, like a test to figure something out. It's almost like a Facebook quiz type thing that's going to tell you all about yourself. But I do think while I haven't read the book or anything, I do think that there's some truth into this. And not just truth about like, figuring out who you are, a lot of times, I think it can help people kind of open their eyes to like, how they can best support their partner, how they can show their love to their partner, because if you, you know, if you if you have a different love language, it helps to know that like, Okay, so, you know, presidents aren't important to me at all, I, you know, I'm just saying I'm not an example, say I hate presence. I don't know, who hates presidents, but like, yes, you burn the script, and I hate presence. You know, if if your partner really loves presence, you know, you should just get over yourself and be like, this is something that I can really show my love to that person.
Totally. And when you talk about getting over yourself, I think that's also I think the biggest stumbling blocks that we've had in our marriage are when we are too focused on ourself, right, wouldn't you?
then probably communication, but maybe they go in again,
right, like feeling, you know, like, you got hurt, not you, but you as a person, you know, was disrespected or hurt or whatever. And it's really, it's like, Well, again, I'm putting myself here, as opposed to putting the other person above me, you know? Yeah. So anyways, this test, you could actually do it online yourself. It's pretty cute. You used to have to just read this book back in the day, like, I think my mom got this book back in the day, but my dad was obviously like, you're not interested in this. I mean, he doesn't talk like that at all. But when Evan talked about being skeptical about something that that was my dad. But it used to be just in a regular book. But now you can actually take this cute little test online. And there's something for couples. There's one for children. So if you want to figure out your children's love language, there's one for teens, and there's one for singles. So Ivan doesn't know it. But I actually just right now sent him a link to this in his messages. Would you check your messages, babe? And we're gonna take the quiz together and see how we give and receive our loves.
I remember my friends are gonna listen to this. Yeah.
I know. Well, listen by me. My audience is really cool.
Women, so yeah, I hope you don't have too many cool women friends anymore. I've heard it explained his mom's with messy buns. Yeah.
Yeah, that's pretty true. He's so cute. What do you think about me doing this podcast anyways? Like, um, I think it's great.
I think you have a real voice. And I'm glad that you're finding something that you find fulfilling.
You guys. I told you he freakin loves me to turn March. All right. So if you go to the front, it's at five. It's actually the number five, five love languages.com and it will say learn your love language. Take the profile that suits you. So let's click on the couple's quiz. each have our own on our phone. And just it says something Don't touch that. Just click out of that. It's like an ad for something called the love nudge just tap out. I don't know what that is. They're trying to trick Alright, so you're gonna put in your gender. I'll pick female today. Then it asks your age and it has a bunch of different age categories. So I'm still in the 25 to 34. Not you. Are you married or in a relationship? Yes. Have you read the Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman? Yes. So Gary Chapman, that's the author, everybody. Congratulations, we figured it out. So for instance, my first question is you can tell me if yours is different. My first question is, it's more meaningful to me when a I receive a loving note text or email for no special reason from my loved one, or my or be my partner and I hug Did you get the same? Alright, what are you picking my partner? Really? Yeah,
I guess I should have picked?
No, you absolutely love notes.
Oh, you're sweet.
I know. You don't
love them.
On the on the difference?
Yeah. It's not like something I'd be like, Oh, I'm really missing notes in my life. Maybe because you right? Maybe there's no reason for me that I guess you're right. I really do. Maybe that's a good reason. A good way to see your partner's love language to like if they're constantly writing you notes.
Literally, what do I ask for every holiday babe, a note.
I can't read a written note. I friggin love. Okay,
you can remember to it's more meaningful to me when a I can spend alone time with my partner, just the two of us, or be my partner does something practical to help me out?
It's tough because it says meaningful.
I mean, I like to be with just you. Me too.
All right. It's more meaningful to me when my partner gives me a little gift as a token of our love for each other. Or I get to spend uninterrupted leisure time with my partner, obviously that yeah, I mean, I like presence, but right. Mm hmm. Your time.
It's more meaningful to me when my partner unexpectedly unexpectedly does something for me like filling my car or doing laundry, or my partner and I touch
Oh, that's tough. Because the first ones like so much more.
Than obviously, that's more meaningful to
you. It's not more meaningful.
Oh, let's just pick it. That's what I was gonna pick anyways.
I picked up
going different than me this time.
All right. It's more meaningful to me when my partner puts his arm around me when we're in public, or my partner surprises me with a gift.
I love it. I friggin love it when you hold my hand in public and then has like these way longer legs than I do. And I'm kind of a short part kind of wish I'm a real short person. And I feel like constantly when we're walking, I'm like the super fast like Sandpiper bird. And he's just giant striding across the plains. And so very freely, you're in front of me like
a white guy. Fast walk.
I don't know what that will then what do I do? Like an Italian short girl stutter stutter.
would you pick? I
don't know. But oh my goodness. The other day, I was having a really low day. I was like crying a lot. And just things were real stressful. And I said, I don't know. You'd go to the store to get my prescription and I was like, I really want you to find me in prison. I mean, I said that. But he did guys. He bought me a dang orchid, which was so friggin nice. And Evan always gives me gifts for like my birthday and Christmas. But like babe, deep besides thinking of me, like on our grocery list, which you are so kind about, would you say that you frequently? Right, exactly. So that was just lovely. So I don't know which one to pick babe?
what one would I go crazy? I probably would give. Okay.
It's more meaningful to me when I'm around my partner, even if we're not really doing anything, or I hold hands with my partner around you.
It's more meaningful to me when my partner gives me gift. Right here. Look, I love you for my partner.
I like I love you.
Do you like sitting close to me? Or when you're complemented by me for no apparent reason?
Okay, I picked complimented,
which audience I'm literally sitting with my legs all the way across Evans lap. So like my back's on the couch and my legs are cross him. But yet I said,
I don't even know what I said. I don't remember the other one. compliment. Yeah. All right. Do it compliment me go.
You're beautiful.
Okay, okay. Okay. Your turn.
It's more meaningful. Just hang out, or to get small gifts.
I know what you'll pick. Yeah. Evan, neither is a gift giver nor receiver. It's just not as thing
presents just me a lot. much baggage, but there's so much baggage.
However, if you were to buy a present for anybody in the world, that would be appreciated. I know for a fact. There are two women in your life. That would think whatever you bought them was effing gold. They are Pam Earley, your mother and Shannon Earley, your wife,
we would both do this.
No matter what it is. It's true.
I think everything I've ever we've ever given my mom like she still has up somewhere. It's like, you
know, when I feel bad? Sometimes? Yeah, we got that at Goodwill mom.
Or like our kids printed out from a yard sale? And yeah, we didn't actually want them to give it to
you. Yeah. It's like on display.
is true, meaningful to me when I get the chance to just hang out? Oh, wait a minute. That's the same one. I didn't even get to answer it.
Right. You read the next one. It's more meaningful. When I hear my partner telling me I'm proud of you. Or my partner helps me with the task. They go.
I agree. 100% it's more meaningful to me when I get to do things with my partner or I hear supportive words from my words. I mean, I don't know. That was my first go to. It's tough when it says more meaningful. Yeah. Like, I need supportive words to get but I don't have a paycheck as a mom. Mm hmm. So your supportive words are 100% my salary and that's basically everybody go by which Christians you should be going by with the No thank you, but I can't help it.
What about you doing stuff like?
So maybe I'm just taking those things for granted. I'm all confused. Now guys, disclaimer, right before we did this, I was starting to get a migraine. And I took migraine medication. A um, I mean, whatever. I'm still not great at making decisions all the time. Like, whenever it is around my brain is just flustered and fluttered. Because I'm just like, whatever you think i think is great. Because I think is so wonderful. But I like the both of these things. I would like to do things with you why you supported me? wordly.
Exactly. Let's see where the migraine medication take June here.
They tell them one time Evan said I'm on like like the precipice of the veil of like, reality and dream or something like I'm always
put in Fantasyland at all times
do I
do and whenever I get sick, or if there's like a medication with any kind of side effect of like, loopiness.
Okay, so is the veil
pierced? Is it okay? NyQuil, for instance? Shannon's a goner? Yeah. Um, fevers, Shannon's high. Like it, just anything that's altering?
Yeah, she hallucinates very easily.
I do.
She's got like a 99.8 degree fever. And she's like, yeah, see and stuff?
Yeah, exactly. I'm like, this is the Brahma seal. And
I don't know why my voice was laughing. I don't know. It's more meaningful to me when my partner does things for me. Instead of just talking about doing nice things, or I feel connected to my partner through a hug. I mean, to me, it's plain as day
one of them yeah, like, it's more meaningful to me when I hear praise, or my partner gives me something that shows she really she was really thinking about me
thinking about me, please. Oh, it's more meaningful to me when I'm able to just be around my partner or I get a back rub or massage. I'm gonna say just be around you. I don't mean to be all touched. I'm touched out by 10pm.
I like a nice burger.
Oh, I know.
I like it more when my partner reacts positively to something I've accomplished. Or my partner does something for me that I know they don't particularly enjoy. reacting positively. Yeah, the
other one's weird.
Yeah, there are other ones like I like it when my partner hates me quietly
when they're doing things with a grumbling heart,
you know, it's more meaningful when my partner and I kiss frequently or I since my partner is showing interest in the things I care about
that one, right the sensing like for instance, if, for instance, when I see your face flush with join, you're talking about Russell Wilson from the Seahawks. I will perk great the FA Cup.
Yeah, for a good 30 sec. Listen, as long as it's not about just keep going.
Talking about Russell Carrington Wilson
and his beautiful eyes and yeah,
Russell Wilson up here this we love ya,
but my husband loves you the most. I mean, the man spins is one day off a week at Children's Hospital. terminally ill children can't joke about Russell Wilson. I'm kidding. I joke about him all the time.
Listen, I'll tell you this. If you want to talk about Russell Wilson, I'll listen. It's just when he gets into like football statistic category. I could give zero farts.
He's an interesting character. You'll listen about our w three. You want
to do a podcast about a Monday.
That'd be a little too weird.
point is you can talk about whatever you want to talk about that. Yeah. on special projects with me that I have to complete or my partner gives me an exciting projects. Yeah. How many house projects do we have a day? Oh, no.
I know. There's always a huge list.
That's the thing. It's not communication that gives us pause in the marriage. It's house but yeah,
that's the only time I ever see it. grumbly
with me? Oh, yes. She has a tendency of having a constant list of house projects. And it's like sometimes it seems like it's just never ending like we just change some and then we got to change this then we got to change that. You got this for free. We got to I got to put it up somewhere. And yeah,
somebody's right in tell me I'm not a weirdo. Like if there's anybody out there.
I think it's it's stereotypical talk about the honey do list. So I know that
which you like lists. We had that conversation you would prefer them
over me just keep an eye even like house projects, but like it's not what I want to spend all my time on.
Evan like clocks out at five o'clock Friday. And I'm like, guess what, we're gonna do this.
We can write
candle ears.
But we have done some pretty cool house projects. I don't know if there's a way to do a podcast about that. Because it seems like you'd need pictures or something.
Okay, let's do
like we did the sliding barn door. We've tiled our kitchen. We've done I made a table reserved and other cool things. We just put together a fire pit like a stone fire pit.
You're amazing. I'm telling y'all. I said in the beginning that he was super creative and humble. I friggin said it up when I'm talking
about all the cool stuff.
You said we did it. I did shit. I
have Angelina remind you last night?
I know. Okay, y'all talk to you about how Evangelion is very black and white. This is that. This is what she says. Go for it if you remember
Yeah, we're at the fire pit in Shannon's brother was over and Shannon's talking about how great the fire pit is and evangelists like huh it's interesting that mom loves the fire pit so much when she did zero work on it and all of us worked on it.
I think says something like mom, I think you love this thing the most and you've done the least for it something lighthouse like Okay, see,
she's some with Shannon actually did go to the store and had to haul some. Yeah, stone bricks.
Yeah, they were 40 pounds each. I didn't know that it's more meaningful to me when I'm complimented by my partner and my parents, or my partner takes the time to listen to me and really understand my feelings. Feelings. Hundred percent. Yeah. Oh, you do? Your turn.
It's more meaningful to me when my partner share non sexual touch in public or my partner offers to run errands for me.
Babe, whenever I'm sick, and you're like, do you want me to go to CVS? It makes me feel so good.
Yeah, I would say Aaron's pretty big deal. When you got four kids. It's hard.
Yes. Huge. They are huge
Bay. They are near for kids. You've got a ton of errands because there's always something going on. Especially in our family. It's more meaningful to me when I can look forward to a holiday because of a gift I anticipate receiving. Or I hear the words. I appreciate you.
Appreciate you Jake's you know, I don't like gifts.
I'd rather have a gift.
It's more meaningful to me when my partner says something encouraging to me or I get to spend time In a shared activity or hobby with my partner, I love doing those things with you.
Yeah, activity. Yeah. Shared ones. Question says, I don't know.
frickin eternals the six hour podcast
there are 700 questions
for a minute.
Your turn.
It's more meaningful to me when my partner helps me out. Specially if I know they're already busy, or here my partner specifically told me. Hey, appreciate you.
I say that to you. Mm hmm. Yeah, that's my partner and I embrace after we've been apart for a while. Or I hear my partner say how much I mean to him or her. I love the first hug that you get.
Even when you come down for lunch. Oh, that's the last one.
No, we're not for me. Hmm, maybe cuz I haven't read his book. I have to answer more questions or something.
But
let's just see, that's just two three and then see what happens more
meaningful to me when I'm able to just be around my partner or hold hands with my partner, I guess. Okay, it was just one more question.
Read that question. You'll be good.
Maybe you were confusing. Me. All right. Ready? Ready. All right. Your primary love languages Dremel beurer What's
your time?
Oh, I love quality time is acts of service. Oh man. We used to match two years ago babe. Remember we are good match was exactly the same. So quality time? What percentage is that for you? 32 really minds. So my highest is only 30% which is acts of service. What's your second thing?
My second is physical.
My physical touches 7%.
Then what? There's a tie for acts of service and words of affirmation at 19%.
Mine is words of affirmation and quality time are tied at 23%. And so my sorry and then receiving gifts is 17%
and then zero percent for me.
Would you read about your primary love language?
Yes, quality time and the vernacular of quality time nothing says I love you. Like full undivided attention. in there for this type of person is critical. But really being there with the TV off fork and knife down and all chores and tasks on standby. Make your makes your significant other feel truly special. distractions postpone dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful. quality time also means sharing quality conversation and quality activities. Ah,
I love you. I love you. My primary love language is acts of service. Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely. Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities, weighing on an acts of service person will speak volumes. The words he or she most wants to hear is let me do that for you. laziness, broken commitments and making more work for them. Tell speakers of this language, their feelings don't matter. Finding ways to serve speaks volumes to the recipient of these acts. So what would you say about this? Do you think you've got it? Pretty right?
Yeah, yeah.
I will say to that, I think during the different times in your life, the different stages, I think that it's going to flip and flop and change around but you think but I think so.
I think right now you're feeling like you're underwater, trying to take care of the house and all the kids and stuff. And so acts of service probably like
you're so sweet. You're talking about it for me. And I was gonna say, because I'm underwater and taking care of the kids and dealing with all these illnesses. I can see why I would be so distracted and you would really desire quality time. I love you. Well, everybody, thank you for listening to episode nine and possibly Episode 11 because I'm probably gonna break this up into a million different episodes. I'm Shannon Earley, and thank you for listening to nesting with the early bird.
Alright guys, talk to you later. And remember,
God totally loves you.
It's more meaningful to me when my partner and dresses partner surprise.
moto can
have their appreciation or my partner and I touch a lot To take the course of the day,
I'm gonna go with undress.
Yeah. Ladies and gents, that's actually not a question and neither of us are even half naked.